therapywithsakina

In a recent session, a client sat across from me, visibly frustrated. “I don’t know why I’m overreacting,” she said. We paused for a moment. Then I gently asked,  “What if this isn’t just about now? What memory might be echoing underneath?” That question opened something. As we explored further, she traced the intensity of her reaction back not to the current situation, but to memories of sitting at the dinner table growing up, where feeling misunderstood was common. Her response in the...

In a recent session, a client said something very quietly. “He deserves someone better than me.” There was no drama in the way she said it. Almost like she was stating a simple fact she had accepted about herself. From the outside, the relationship sounded steady. Her partner was supportive, kind, and often appreciative of her. Yet every time he expressed love, she found herself questioning it. “If he really knew me, he would realise he could do better.” We sat with that thought for a moment....

I was out shopping with a couple of friends and their children. As children do, they were running around with laughter and energy. Suddenly, an attendant rather curtly asked the parents to keep them “disciplined.” What happened next stayed with me. The mother calmly yet firmly replied,“They’re kids. I can ask them, but I cannot force them. They’re not adults.” In that moment, something shifted within me. It felt as though the child within who had long craved understanding rather than...