When the Click Happened: From Edge to Ease

A client sat in the session weighed down by exhaustion.He had ended a relationship, yet the emotional contact continued.Texts. Calls. Invitations to hold space for his ex.

He felt responsible.

Unable to say no.

Unable to rest.

His work, sleep, presence — all deteriorating.

He described it like this:“I feel at the edge… like I could fall anytime.”

We paused the narrative there.

He painted a mental image — himself standing at the edge of a cliff, trembling with fear.

Then came the shift.

Together, the mental image was gently reshaped.

He closed his eyes.

Saw himself sitting at the edge.

Legs dangling.

Still. Calm. Smoking a cigarette, unhurried.

His posture changed first.T

hen his breath.

Then his sense of self.

That was the moment — the click.

He was no longer poised to fall.

He was choosing his position.

Not because the situation changed.

But because his internal stance did.

Sometimes the work isn’t changing the external.

It’s inviting a different seat at the edge.

And when that happens — the cliff stops being a threat.

What emotional responsibility is still being carried long after the relationship has ended and is it truly theirs to hold?